19 Ways to Connect With Your Teen
- Create a family tradition in which everyone shares something from their day.
- Respect you teen’s boundaries.
- Recognize the importance of casual conversation.
- Listen without trying to fix things.
- Respond without criticizing.
- Listen without interrupting.
- Answer without blaming.
- As you teen talks, practice letting go of any thoughts you have about who he/she is and remain open to his truth in this moment.
- If it’s appropriate, reflect back to your teen the emotions they are feeling when they share something meaningful with you.
- Stop what you’re doing and look into your teenager’s eyes. Listen to their tone of voice. Watch their body language.
- Designate an afternoon, an hour, or an entire weekend when you put aside your other responsibilities and focus entirely on your teenager.
- Remember that listening doesn’t mean you necessarily agree with everything your teen is saying.
- Ask questions with the intention of listening to the answers rather than making your teen defensive.
- Keep your teen’s confidence!
- Neutral ground can often be the best place to talk: a restaurant, shopping mall or coffee shop.
- Be willing to play chauffeur.
- Reward your teen’s honesty.
- Listen to your teen without judgment.